Why I Still Feel Hopeful About My 20th Fertility Treatment – a mom.me post

I’ve been through a lot of fertility treatments. I’ve done twelve cycles of Clomid and timed intercourse, three IUIs, three IVFs, and a donor frozen egg transfer. All failures. In the midst of IVFs resulting in negative pregnancy tests, I remember there were several times I wanted to give up, that I thought it just wasn’t going to happen. I remember every crushing disappointment when a cycle wouldn’t work.

Couples going through infertility understand disappointment. At the start of a new cycle, there is this hope they have, that maybe, just maybe, this next cycle will be it. That a pregnancy will finally happen that will result in a baby. Couples remain hopeful through the monitoring appointments, through the daily injections, the mood swings and discussions with the insurance company. Even when every other cycle before this one was negative, there is that hope held out that this one will be different.

Infertility is ultimately a lesson in hope and disappointment, and many of us cycle between the two for months, and in many cases, for years.

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I have so much hope for you and this cycle 🙂

Amanda Eisenberg

Hoping that this cycle will be THE cycle for both of us! I haven't hit 20 treatment cycles yet, our recurrent losses sent us rather quickly through IUIs/IVFs, but more than ready to be finished with this roller coaster ride.


I am obviously not God BUT I firmly believe that if we still have hope, if that desire to carry our babies doesn't stop and we can still hope AFTER such hard trials-it is meant to be. I have met too many people that were supposed to go a different route (ie adoption, child free) because they had no desire to do treatments. If you have such strong hope, and such a strong desire, I truly believe it's there for a reason. I am so so so so so so so so so so so (times 1 million) rooting for… Read more »

Melissa Long

It's such a roller coaster, for sure. Hoping this month really is THE month.


In still holding out hope for you!!!!


I'm hoping for you too. Hang in there Risa! And know you have an army of support.

Elisha Kearns

I am praying for you sugars and very hopeful that this is the one 🙂 You are such a strong and courageous woman! xo


Jessah @ Dreaming of Dimples

Such a raw, honest post, Risa. I'm hoping so much that the odds are finally in your favor and you see those much hoped for two lines. Thinking of you as you go back to Texas!!!!