This post is part of the 30 Day Infertility Blogging Challenge. You can read the whole series by clicking here.
1. How did you and your partner decide when you were ready to start trying to conceive?
Chris and I were married the summer before my last year of nursing school. I knew I didn’t want to get pregnant during that last year because I was stressed out enough with school. My parents waited five years to have me because they wanted to enjoy married life before kids. I honestly don’t know how they went five years of people constantly asking when they were going to have children. Of course, they had the luxury of not having a Facebook account where you get daily updates on other people’s children and pregnancy pictures. I digress.
So during an appointment with my doctor, I brought up the fact that I wanted to stop my birth control. This was maybe January 2009. My doctor told me that I should use other means of birth control for three months to ready my body for a pregnancy. This was well-meaning advice back then because she didn’t want me to experience a miscarriage from the lining of my uterus being too thin. She probably thought I was “normal” and would get pregnant within a few months. I remember in April, a month before graduation, I wanted to start trying. “Come on Chris, even if I get pregnant now, it’s not going to affect me with school.” I can’t even remember which month we specifically started actively trying. All I know is that summer of 2009 came and went and I started realizing all that “carefulness” of trying not to get pregnant was a gigantic waste of time. Condoms? Birth control pills? Who needed those? Not this girl.